A client recently dropped this gem of a question in a Q&A:
I think my biggest questions are HOW do I leave that scarcity mindset - specifically around my health. I find that I always go all in, do awesome for 2 days, then make a misstep and throw in the towel. I find that pattern repeat in many areas of life and I don’t know how to stop the cycle. I just want a consistent, balanced, maintained practice.
If you’ve ever struggled with being consistent, showing up for yourself all the way through until you’ve crossed the finish line, and you feel discouraged even thinking of starting something new-especially when that new thing involves improving yourself in some way, tune in to this video. It’s a good one.
My old “self-improvement” strategy | self-abandonment
A few years ago, I would have named consistency one of my worst weaknesses. It was embarrassing to me and something I felt deep shame around. For me the cycle went a lot like this:
Learn something new
Have a breakthrough about this new knowledge as it relates to me
Envision how it would feel to change
Get all worked up and excited to make a change
Commit
Immediate self-doubt
half-hearted try at this new commitment
Mess up
Give up
That’s it. That was my self-improvement strategy for decades of my life-since I was a small girl.
My new self improvement strategy | personal excellence
Now, however? I can’t imagine not seeing something I’ve committed to all the way through. I can’t imagine abandoning a launch even though the response to it isn’t great. I can’t imagine starting a journaling practice commitment and not seeing it all the way through. Why? Because I’ve healed the real problem.
For me, it was never about a lack of follow through, it was really me being at war with myself and abandoning myself.
When I healed my need to abandon myself when I doubted my capabilities, follow through became a natural by-product of my commitment to me.
Leading from a place of personal excellence is my life’s vision: I choose to be a better human every day and only use my own data to inform my progress. I don’t compare myself to others, I don’t wish I were different, and I no longer check out when I’m having a hard time.
Now, one of the things I’m most proud of is that I can be present with myself when things feel hard, overwhelming, scary, or painful. I’ve got my own back.
This is the greatest gift I’ve ever given to myself.
Enjoy today’s video and comment to let me know if my story or this coaching snippet resonates with you. I hope it does.
Much love to you today.
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